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Za popôrodné nedokonalosti sa hanbila a trpela depresiami. Dnes má pre všetky ženy krásny odkaz
Dominika Dobrocká
Dominika Dobrocká

Za popôrodné nedokonalosti sa hanbila a trpela depresiami. Dnes má pre všetky ženy krásny odkaz

— Foto: Instagram/thebirdspapaya

Roky bojovala so svojim vlastným telom. Našla však vyrovnanosť a je spokojnou matkou, manželkou a ženou.

GUELPH 12. februára - Poznajú to takmer všetky ženy, ktoré na svet priniesli ten najväčší dar, akým je dieťa. Výnimkou nie je ani 34-ročná Sarah Nicole Landryová. Tá už bola vo svojich v 25-tich rokoch trojnásobnou mamičkou. Každé jedno tehotenstvo sa jej, prirodzene, na tele podpísalo. Strie sú a boli bežnou súčasťou tehotenstva a žena, ktorá sa im vyhne, môže byť naozaj šťastná. Sarah však nepatrí medzi výnimky a strie má. Po jej poslednom pôrode tento nezmazateľný podpis prežívala najhoršie.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Lately I’ve been dieting my newsfeed. As in, trimming out the things I don’t need in my soul anymore. Accounts that for, whatever reason, make me feel like I need to “fix” my body. And I’m not against these people or their amazing accounts or even the things they’re doing! For me body positivity will always be that authority of choice! Just like I have mine too. I just need to pay attention and recognize my own mental health needs right now. And that’s ok. Even if I never want to unfollow anyone because the idea of me hurting someone’s feelings is all too painful in an of itself, I need to do this. . . So I want to fill the void. I want to fill the bucket, and fill the newsfeed. . . Big or small - I want your recommendations for accounts that bring you JOY, help you see the truths about your body, or the appreciation of being a badass woman. Maybe they make you laugh, or decorate their house well. Maybe they just wear super cool outfits. . . I’m ready for your recommendations - Hit. Me. Up. ? Can’t wait to get to know some new hearts.

Príspevok, ktorý zdieľa Sarah Nicole Landry (@thebirdspapaya),

Pred svetom sa ukrývala, hanbila sa, trpela depresiami a všetky negatívne pocity zajedala. Týmto spôsobom života ručička na váhe zrazu vyskočila nad 100 kilogramov. Našťastie sa krásna blondínka včas spamätala a podarilo sa jej opäť dostať do formy. Strie, celulitída a ovisnutá pokožka však zostali a to Sarah veľmi ťažko znášala. Pri pohľade do zrkadla sa hanbila čoraz viac. Jej telo, ktoré mala pred tehotenstvom, bolo preč.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

I remember the day I saw those first two photos as a before and after on Pinterest. Someone had taken them from my IG, pinned them and put the words “thinspiration”. I winced. I wanted to be a story of health. Not of “thinness”. But it was happening. Like it or not. And I was responsible for that. And sure, I was proud. Amidst the stress of everything going on in life I had this one thing I was achieving at. I should be proud of that. My life crumbling apart, but I mean, I had this. So girl, plaster a smile on your face and show em what you have going. But that battle was brewing. That feeling of “oh so I made it, and I still don’t feel enough” and the horror of that reality was settling in. I always equated a lot of my unhappiness to my weight, but there I was, rid of it, and left with the same. My weight at its lowest, and depression at its highest. I was trying to fix the problems from the outside in. That had to change. The following days weren’t pretty. Therapy. Identifying PTSD. Coping with food addiction without fear. Divorce. Single motherhood. Loss of friendships. Living with parents. Did I mention how humbling that was? I should have been crippled with shame and failure. Instead, I was finally feeling free. I was dealing with it. I was being what I always wanted to be. Healthy. Inside out. . Which is WHY we gotta talk about that now. I can’t go back and rewrite captions from 3 years ago. My story has progressed and changed. So have I. I think as a society, we are becoming more transparent yet often less genuine all in the same scoop. It’s confusing to know what’s real and what’s not. So we do our best. We share what we choose. We choose what we love. We love what we become. . . I won’t feel ashamed of my past anymore because I’m so proud of where I’m come from it. Past the past. . . Going forward, something about all of this means more to me. I don’t feel like I’m finding my voice or anything. But I’m finding my voice right now. Letting go of the pressure to be anything more than who I am at the moment. There’s a lot ahead of me. There’s a lot behind me. But right now, this is me. . And I am sorry to every girl I ever “thinspired”.

Príspevok, ktorý zdieľa Sarah Nicole Landry (@thebirdspapaya),

Falošná dokonalosť

Matke troch krásnych ratolestí vôbec nepomáhal pohľad na dokonalosť denne prezentovanú na sociálnych sieťach a v médiách. Tie totiž ľudí kŕmia nezmyselnou predstavou o kráse, ktorá nepozná strie, pehy, celulitídu a už vôbec nie gram tuku navyše. „To je tak hlúpe. Sme ľudia. Všetci sme krásni. O tom to je. O tej rozmanitosti,“ myslí si už dnes Sarah. Rozhodla sa preto zrušiť všetky tieto aktivity a začala vyhľadávať profily, ktoré jej pomohli zmeniť myslenie a pohľad na seba samú.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

To be honest, I never thought I’d see this day. ⁣ ⁣ I never thought my stretch marks would bring me anything but pain. I never thought my squish would make me smile. ⁣ I never thought my cellulite would be beach-worthy. ⁣ I never thought I’d be ok with little boobs in a curvy body. ⁣ I never thought I’d feel comfortable being a new size. ⁣ I never thought I’d see beauty where it’s always been but I’d never seen before.⁣ I never thought I would feel like I had choice in the matter. I never thought others would see it either. ⁣ I never thought I would be happy like this. ⁣ You know, as-is, and ever-changing. ⁣ ⁣ But here we are. ⁣ ? *tagged accounts that helped me daily*

Príspevok, ktorý zdieľa Sarah Nicole Landry (@thebirdspapaya),

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

A year ago I never could have posted this. No way. No how. This was my shame. This was my horror. But today, I have no hesitation. No nerves. No “oh my gosh what will they say?”. Just peace. Because I understand now. I understand that this is just the human body. This is a body that has carried three amazing children. This is a body that has been a range of weights swinging 110lbs in difference. This is a body that used to feel worthless and now feels strong. This is a body that needs to be fed with love, attention, kindness and good food. This is a body, and through PRACTICE and EFFORT and EXERCISE in self care, I have grown to love. This is a body that I will use to help show others that they are not alone in their bodies. My friends, this is your life. This is your body. Whether you’re tall or small, curvy or striped, this is you. And you are beautiful. And it takes time to grasp these things. It’s not something that you SUDDENLY magically feel ok with, but the effort in hate is more draining that the effort in love. So, practice. Because it took years of words, pictures of perfection and endless comparisons to create the voice inside your head to where it is today, and now it’s time to redirect. Now it’s time to fill it with new words, new pictures, and valuable connections. Now it’s time to live. Really live. With peace, and understanding. And a love that will not just fill you, but pour into others. Spreading the truths for more to know. ? That self love, it’s so worth it. So, practice. ❤️

Príspevok, ktorý zdieľa Sarah Nicole Landry (@thebirdspapaya),

Krásne sme všetky

Sarah pomohli aj terapie. Dnes je na svoje nedokonalé telo hrdá a nemá problém svoje krivky ukázať svetu. Snaží sa tak podporiť všetky ženy, ktoré o sebe pochybujú a nenávidia svoje vlastné ja. „Kto hovorí, že to nie je pekné? Kde sa vzala tá sprostá definícia krásy, že škaredý je ten, kto má celulitídu, strie alebo je obézny?“ nahnevane komentuje dnešnú smutnú realitu Sarah. Práve ona sa vie do nešťastných žien veľmi dobre vžiť. Prešla si totiž peklom, kedy svoje telo nenávidela a to len preto, že tri pôrody jej detí zanechali svoje prirodzené stopy.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

I am so thankful that that beauty company retracted their statements about dimples not being cute on anywhere but the face. I am so thankful for that, I am. I’m also thankful for @jameelajamilofficial for being a voice of change in that. ⁣ ⁣ But that doesn’t mean we weren’t impacted. It doesn’t mean we didn’t feel that. ⁣ ⁣ But it also doesn’t mean we aren’t gonna arm ourselves with positive retaliation to those feelings.⁣ By bringing our body dimples into the spotlight or our mirrors and giving them a moment to shine and be appreciated and remind woman young and old everywhere that they ARE cute to us. That they don’t need a solution or a quick fix. They need to be normalized. ⁣ ⁣ I bought my first cellulite cream before I was even 15 years old. I grew up with every ad marketing towards ridding our bodies of it, so I thought I needed to too. ⁣ I wore jeans in the heat of summer, I wore board shorts when swimming, I did everything to hide the natural dimples of my youthful body. ⁣ ⁣ And now that body has aged and more dimples have joined them. ⁣ ⁣ And you know what? ⁣ I really don’t care. ⁣ ⁣ It took me a LONG time to see it, but they’re normal and yeah, I actually DO think they’re cute! ⁣ ⁣ So if you’re feeling it today, remember - just because some marketing team tried to harness your self-doubt for sales, they A) learned a lesson and retracted and B) reminded us to fight for our cute lil dimps. ⁣ ⁣ Carry on, dimple warriors! ⁣?

Príspevok, ktorý zdieľa Sarah Nicole Landry (@thebirdspapaya),

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

When it came to loose skin on stomachs I felt like there were two types of people: those forced to accept it, and those who could afford a tummy tuck. I've been incredibly candid about my road to accepting my stretch-marked-loose-skin belly and much to my own surprise, a while ago I stopped saving up for that tummy tuck. I was finding joy and peace in my body. It was new and beautiful and I was excited to save money for something else - like a family vacation or home reno. Then I was offered a tummy tuck. For free. No longer was money in the equation. It was just me and my choice. What I would choose to do with loose skin from pregnancies and weight loss? Instead of being plagued with guilt and confusion over a decision such as this, I felt an overwhelming wave of protection over my journey, my body, and where I've come. I thought of all of you. Not in the way of feeling I would have let you down if I took it, but just knowing how supported and beautiful this community is. No matter what the body type. I didn’t feel I needed it anymore. Even more importantly - I didn’t feel I wanted it anymore. And if you think I would judge or disagree with anyone who DID do one, wrong. I think this is a VERY personal choice, and when made in love can be a strong tool to healing. Please, know that the women who choose this path are not "less", they are not "more" they are just choosing for THEM. We all deserve that authority over our own bodies. I support them. FULL STOP. But I wanted to share this, from a personal place, a personal choice, and decision, and from a place that I never thought I'd reach. Because it truly wasn't until this moment that I knew for sure that I was healing the hate I had for my body. A hate that I now realize even with the surgery would have shifted, I would have found a new way to hate on my body. Instead, I get to live, exist, breathe, eat, love and honor and experience my body in gratefulness for all it has done and continues to do. I am healing. And tears are streaming down my face as I say that. I am healing. This work, it's not for nothing. Remember that. Practice it. Invest in yourself and know how worthy you are. ❤️

Príspevok, ktorý zdieľa Sarah Nicole Landry (@thebirdspapaya),

Dnes je však Sarah krásna žena aj s „chybami“, o ktorých sa stále málo rozpráva. Je spokojná, šťastná a verí, že práve jej fotografie pomôžu iným ženám vzpriamiť sa a vykročiť hrdo do sveta. Netají sa tým, že cesta k jej dnešnému pohľadu na seba bola dlhá. Bezpochyby však stála za to a bola by rada, keby sa mali rady všetky ženy.

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